Just like many of you, I deal with managing blogs and different profiles on various social and professional network sites on a daily basis. Nothing out of the ordinary here, so I am sure you may have also pondered on questions like:
What are the key differences between the social and professional networks we dedicate part of our time to on a regular basis?
Do we really need them all?
or, to put it a bit more bluntly,
Is keeping up-to-date with one’s Twitter, Facebook, and Linkedin accounts a pain? If so, what do we stand to gain from it all?
Lucky me, I found a very practical answer to these more-or-less rhetorical questions this very morning from none other than Reid Hoffman, Linkedin co-founder and Executive Chairman, in the Bloomberg West Special “Inside Linkedin”.
“… I think they deliver to different value propositions, so, for example, and I think this is a direction you’ll see each of them more elaborating over time, so in the Linkedin case, we are trying essentially to assemble what you need to know as a professional, and it is not what is happening in this moment. For example, in all the tragedy of what was happening in Boston, Linkedin is a bad source for that. Twitter is an awesome source. Twitter is like “real time”, it’s like “what’s going on right now?”. There are pictures that someone’s taken in chasing a subject that are actually being up on Twitter, so it’s much more a “real-time” medium as opposed to, you know, the “what’s going on today, this week, within a business arena”. And then Facebook tends to be a kind of combination of “what’s going on with me socially”, you know, pictures and all, and also entertainment, right? Like, “Oh, boy, this is a really funny video!”, “Did you see that video?”, that sort of thing. It is not to say that the content doesn’t cross over between them, but I think that is where each of these ecosystems have evolved into.”
Here are two more remarks I found particularly appealing. They come from the same source.
“[At Linkedin] we’re not really meaning to replace media as much as organise the entire Internet through the curation of professional networks.”
and
“… as we like to say, here we connect talent & opportunity.”
Spot on! So, shall I tweet this link post right now, or just wrap up by wishing you a wonderful Sunday? Well, why not both? Carpe diem!
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PS: There is something else I recommend to all of you avid Sunday readers out there, interested in other kinds of communication possibly including the so-called love skills. You can read more about these in the article below, picked up from the Health section of TIME: “The Key to Happy Relationships? It’s Not All About Communication” by Francine Russo.
If couples were paying any attention during the last few decades, they should be able to recite the one critical ingredient for a healthy relationship — communication. But the latest study shows that other skills may be almost as important for keeping couples happy.
While expressing your needs and feelings in a positive way to your significant other is a good foundation for resolving conflicts and building a healthy relationship, these skills may not be as strong a predictor of couples’ happiness as experts once thought.
In an internet-based study involving 2201 participants referred by couples counselors, scientists decided to test, head-to-head, seven “relationship competencies” that previous researchers and marital therapists found to be important in promoting happiness in romantic relationships. The idea was to rank the skills in order of importance to start building data on which aspects of relationships are most important to keeping them healthy. In addition to communication and conflict resolution, the researchers tested for sex or romance, stress management, life skills, knowledge of partners and self-management to see which were the best predictors of relationship satisfaction. Couples were asked questions that tested their competency in all of these areas and then queried about how satisfied they were with their relationships. The researchers correlated each partner’s strengths and weaknesses in each area with the person’ relationship satisfaction.
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Not surprisingly, those who reported communicating more effectively showed the highest satisfaction with their relationships. But the next two factors — which were also the only other ones with strong links to couple happiness—were knowledge of partner (which included everything from knowing their pizza topping preferences to their hopes and dreams) and life skills (being able to hold a job, manage money, etc).
Couples counselors, however, rarely address these two areas, as the focus on strengthening relationships has been on improving communication to reduce destructive behavior and to build support and comfort for each other. “For the last 25 years,” says Tom Bradbury, a veteran couples researcher at UCLA, “the prevailing attitude has been that relationships need to meet our emotional needs.” To be successful, however, he’s also found that relationships need to function in more practical, and perhaps mundane ways as well.
And learning more about your partner, says the study’s lead author Robert Epstein, a professor of psychology at the University of the South Pacific, could be relatively easy if people (men especially, since they scored worse in this area) took the trouble to find out, remember and put to use such relatively simple information as the names of their partner’s relatives and the dates of birthdays and anniversaries. Even more important, Epstein says, is knowing such critical things as whether your partner wants children. While his study did not separate trivial from such profound knowledge, he says that the two are strongly linked.
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While other marriage researchers agree that forgetting things like birthdays or food preferences can be annoying and detrimental to a relationship, they believe the importance of life skills that was revealed in the study is telling.
“It’s an old idea, really,” says Bradbury. “In 1900 a woman or man would think, ‘My partner must be able to provide for me.’ ‘She must be able to help me plant and dig up the crops.’” If the couple had this foundation, they’d consider themselves lucky if they also got their emotional needs met. In Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage, historian Stephanie Coontz traces the gradual erosion of this old idea of marriage back about 200 years in Western society as cultural expectations about marriage changed from one rooted in kinship, property and utility to one in which people were expected to get nearly all of their emotional needs met by one person.
For today’s couples interested in improving their relationships, say the study’s authors, therapists might consider going back to the basics, and incorporating more practical social skills into their discussions. And that may include referring those who lack these skills to money managers or career coaches. “Communication skills are necessary,” says University of Texas( Austin) couples researcher Lisa Neff, but they’re not sufficient when couples are under stress.”
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It’s important for couples to know how the outside world —whether they can get a job, whether their kids can play outside safely or go to a good school—will affect their relationship even if they have good life skills and good communication skills. Strong relationships, says Bradbury, recognizes how pressures outside of the home and the relationship can influence, and even break down good communication skills.
“Outside,” Bradbury says, “there is a real world that impinges on us.” To deal with it takes communication, but also an understanding that even the strongest communication networks among partners can falter and when they’re under these intense external pressure. The strategy he suggests for couples he counsels is to join forces rather than turn away from each other. “It’s not you against each other; It’s you against the world,” he says.
[Couples who want to take the test can do so at MyLoveSkills]
Filed under: 7►NET WORKS, ■ Communicate, ■ Facebook, ■ Linkedin, ■ Relation ships, ■ TIME, ■ Twitter
Later on the same “Inside Linkedin”, Paul Kedroski states:
“Business people join Linkedin for less frivolous reasons…”
🙂 Food for thought:
Where does frivolousness come into play when we join a particular social or professional network?
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